Caught Between a Rock and a Monster

Jimbo,

Here's my story,

I fell in love, she fell in love, we wanted to get married and have a child. She got pregnant, then said she doesn't want me in her life.......I'm crushed, what's the angle to finding a way to get her back. Friends say it's a good thing she's this way. But I like the "family idea" better.

Readers, any words of wisdom?

Jimbo

Some friendly reader advice:

Your friends are right, can you imagine the hell you'd be going thru if you'd married this one??

If by "out of her life" she means no child support & no contact, get a lawyer, sign the deal and walk away because otherwise you're in each others life for
the next 18 years. The child might be in your pocketbook till him/her is maybe 25 if it wants to stay in school, so take this as a lesson in life.

By the way, has she said why she doesn't want you in her life, because charges of physical/sexual/child abuse are hard & expensive to defend
against, so if she really wants you out of her life, its best to go quietly as she can easily force you out.

Good Luck

And more advice, from Sarah:

Hey kiddo, you are way too good for anyone who would fall in love, have your child and then leave you. I know it's hard to deal with, but why would
you want to be with someone so immature? You need someone that is more at your level.

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